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About Jesús Enrique Rosas

The Body Language Guy.

“Am I ready?” is the WRONG question. Better, ask yourself this:

Education is empowering, but grades and titles foster a silly competition over whose resumé is bigger. That reminds me of Williamina Fleming, who became immortal in a very odd way: Williamina was a Scottish woman in her early 20s when she found herself in quite a predicament. She had moved to the United States with her husband, whom she had just married. He left her as soon as they got there. Oh, and she was pregnant. Returning to Scotland was not an option, so she started to work as a maid for Edward Pickering, an astrophysicist and director of the Harvard ... [keep reading...]

“Am I ready?” is the WRONG question. Better, ask yourself this:2025-01-01T13:44:15+01:00

How to DESTROY any doubts about your capacity

  Arrogance is usually frowned upon, as everyone says that you should always be humble and modest. But a couple sentences from Albert Einstein in 1919 are a great example of the only attitude that will get you far: In 1919, a solar eclipse had special significance for the scientific community. It was an opportunity to prove Einstein's general theory of relativity; he predicted that the curvature of space would distort the light of stars . They would bend like "Wanted" movie bullets. An expedition was organized and they finally confirmed that Einstein was right. One of his pupils asked him, ... [keep reading...]

How to DESTROY any doubts about your capacity2025-01-01T13:44:15+01:00

A funny proof that most obstacles are NONEXISTENT:

  "The real enemy is within your mind" is a really worn out cliché... that will still be true no matter what. There's an anecdote of famed orchestra director Artur Rodzinski that helps illustrate this perennial fact: One evening, Rodzinski was driving when he saw a billboard announcing an open-air concert that was being broadcasted by radio at that very moment. The program included one of his own specialties: Shostakovich's Fifth Symphony, directed by Fabien Sevitzky. He didn't respect Sevitzky much, but he tuned in to the broadcast anyway. The concert had already begun. Just a few seconds in, and he ... [keep reading...]

A funny proof that most obstacles are NONEXISTENT:2025-01-01T13:44:16+01:00

Why your offer should always be absurdly high when negotiating:

  I’d like you to imagine the following scene. At some point in the late fifteenth century, Christopher Columbus went full Shark Tank pitching to the Catholic Monarchs his project of reaching the Indies directly across the Atlantic Ocean. He asked for ships, crew and provisions to do what everyone (supposed) could be done because since ancient Greece it was already known that our planet was round… but no one dared to slash it proven. The fact is that Columbus was quite persistent and spent nine (Yes, 9!) Years requesting financing for the expedition. We can picture him standing in front ... [keep reading...]

Why your offer should always be absurdly high when negotiating:2025-01-01T13:44:16+01:00

Sometimes I like watching people fail. And fail in a BIG way.

Have you heard the expression "It is not enough to succeed... others must fail, too!" Yeah, it's mean, makes (sometimes) zero sense, but it always manages to get me a chuckle. Especially because sometimes, some people absolutely deserve to fail. Take for example the nice success of the Super Mario Bros' movie opening weekend. Broke the record for animated films. Nintendo and Universal Studios are ready to take a dip in Scrooge McDuck's vault. Who's the big loser here? Disney and Pixar, and with good reason. They have embarrassed themselves over and over again in the last few years just pouring ... [keep reading...]

Sometimes I like watching people fail. And fail in a BIG way.2025-01-01T13:44:17+01:00

My 3 tactics to become unreadable

I get these questions a lot. "I am too expressive... I would like to tone down my gestures" "How can I control my body language and not get nervous?" "Sometimes I think people misinterpret my face" Here's the thing: you can control your body language, but you don't really want to control your body language. Let me explain. I used to be a 'controlled body language' advocate. Assume postures and gestures to execute at any given time. It worked... sometimes. To be honest, it worked only once, when I gave a 38-minute lecture back in 2012 which I rehearsed to every ... [keep reading...]

My 3 tactics to become unreadable2025-01-01T13:44:18+01:00

Sometimes you need a mask… just to be yourself

Few people are comfortable with society being just a big masquerade ball where everyone conceals their identities… and their intentions. This story of a baseball player going incognito at a hotel, sums it up pretty well: Ted Williams was an American outfielder with a temper. He wasn’t by any means, the sweetest person. One rainy night, he was checking in at a nondescript hotel. The lobby was empty and silent. The clerk recognized him straight away as he approached the front desk. Williams noticed the manager's body language and knew he had recognized him. We are talking about the 1940s, so ... [keep reading...]

Sometimes you need a mask… just to be yourself2025-01-01T13:44:18+01:00

Speaking with serenity and firmness will take you far:

You may think that you need to show visible and noticeable emotions to persuade, but it's not always necessary. An example is when Humphrey Bogart took his stylist (and, um, lover!) Verita Thompson to dinner. Verita was a Mexican who made it to Hollywood as a stylist. She had an affair with Bogart while they were both married. The first time he took her to Romanoff's restaurant, he introduced her as "Petée González, Mexican actress". Verita was WTF, but went along with the joke. To continue the ruse, Verita spoke only Spanish with Bogart, and Sofia-Vergara-grade English with everyone else. When ... [keep reading...]

Speaking with serenity and firmness will take you far:2025-01-01T13:44:19+01:00

The difference between persuasion and manipulation

I often see these two words used synonymously. As if being persuasive or manipulative were the same thing. Although both are aimed at getting people to do what you want, this is a fundamental difference: Our ability to make our own decisions. To illustrate it, I'll add a third term: Coercion, which doesn't cause as much confusion. It is when you are forced to act against your will; in other words, it eliminates your ability to make decisions. Generally coercion is notorious; you know that someone is preventing you from acting or deciding for yourself. And in that sense it is ... [keep reading...]

The difference between persuasion and manipulation2025-01-01T13:44:19+01:00

How to deal with people’s vicious attacks… with elegance:

"Bear in mind that you are not making music for your own pleasure, but for the pleasure of your audience". This is a quote from the German composer Richard Strauss which depicts the humbleness we should strive for. But what if no matter our efforts, some trolls inside our audience keep attacking us? This is an everyday dilemma just because we are hardwired by evolution to give disproportional weight to criticism. We wonder why, if we aren't hurting anyone, if we're minding our own business and focused on doing it well... there's always one jerk, one hater, or at least one ... [keep reading...]

How to deal with people’s vicious attacks… with elegance:2025-01-01T13:44:20+01:00
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