Hey,

Ever wonder why people keep cutting you off mid-sentence? Why they act like you’re invisible at parties? Why they drain everything you have to offer and vanish like you were just a convenient vending machine?

Here’s the uncomfortable truth: The world isn’t randomly cruel to you. It’s responding to how you’ve positioned yourself.

That’s right. I’m not here to coddle you or offer five magical phrases that will make everyone suddenly respect you, but rather share with you the same self-respect journeyrugle (sort of a blend between a journey and a struggle) I’ve been through.

I was that person who’s always available. The dude who said “yes” when my soul was screaming “no.” Who forgave before anyone even bothered to apologize. And what did I get in return? A steaming pile of contempt.

But mostly, contempt from within. Contempt from me towards myself!

Maybe it’s your case right now, and you might be wondering: how the freck can you change this?

The most terrifying act, in fact, isn’t facing down others.

It’s accepting yourself completely.

(Make sure to read that last sentence out loud to really drive it into your subconscious)

That requires admitting something painful: as long as you ignore your own worth, others will follow your lead.

The world around you isn’t chaotic. It’s a brutal reflection of your psyche.

When you accept being treated like garbage, you’re sending a clear message: “This is how I see myself. This is what I believe I deserve.” And people are remarkably good at picking up on that broadcast.

You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you believe you deserve, even if that belief is buried under layers of “being nice.”

Let’s get real about what’s happening: You’ve spent your life trying to prove you’re enough. Being the perfect child, partner, friend – always bending yourself into a pretzel to fit others’ expectations.

And what did that get you? Momentary approval at best, but never genuine respect.

Because here’s the brutal math: People who live to please will inevitably be seen as people who can be manipulated.

The more you desperately try to prove your worth, the more you confirm to the world you don’t believe in it yourself.

People who respect themselves don’t beg for attention. They don’t do favors expecting love in return. They know who they are, and that’s enough. They understand that sometimes displeasing others is the price of living with integrity.

You’ve been conditioned to believe that being “good” means never contradicting anyone. That loving means ‘self-sacrifice’. That setting boundaries makes you selfish.

THAT IS JUST PLAIN BAUER-SHEET.

BUT when something bothers you, you swallow it. When someone crosses your lines, you stay silent. When you’re hurt, you forgive before they even notice they’ve wounded you.

You think you’re being mature and compassionate.

But in REALITY, you’re erasing yourself.

Day by day, you’re disappearing from your own life.

But here’s your Jules-Winnfield-grade wake-up call:

THE WORLD DOESN’T RESPECT THOSE WHO DON’T RESPECT THEMSELVES.

Respect isn’t asked for or negotiated.

It’s PROJECTED.

This starts with a word you’re probably terrified of: “NO”.

Saying no is the first concrete act of self-respect. It’s when you communicate that there are boundaries that won’t be crossed, that your energy isn’t an all-you-can-eat buffet, that your time and wellbeing actually matter.

When you start saying no, get ready for the guilt. It’ll eat at you. It’ll whisper that you’re being selfish. It’ll try dragging you back to your comfortable corner of self-sacrifice.

And the first people to be bothered will be those who exploited you the most. Your boundaries will expose their entitlement, and that stings.

(for BOTH of you)

But understand this: Every time you say no to others, you’re saying yes to yourself.

Why do you tolerate things that hurt you? Why stay in friendships that diminish you? Relationships that drain you? Environments where you have to hide who you are?

Because you’ve buried parts of yourself – your strength, your healthy anger, your righteous indignation – thinking they were wrong or ugly. Or inadecuate. Or against third-party dogmas. Or could made you as unpopular as that effing pimple that popped up at the worst possible day of high school.

You still believe that to be loved, you need to be “passive”.

That to maintain relationships, you need to erase yourself.

But that’s just outdated software running in the background of your mind.

Remember that time you did a massive favor for someone, hoping for recognition, but received nothing but ingratitude or more demands?

And you stayed silent, feeling used?

That silence isn’t wisdom.

It’s submission disguised as maturity.

Here’s what you can start doing today:

Use discomfort as your compass. When something bothers you, don’t rationalize it away. Ask yourself: “If I truly respected myself, what would I do right now?”

Stop over-explaining yourself. You don’t need three paragraphs justifying every “no.” Those who demand explanations are already used to crossing your lines.

Put yourself in your own schedule. How many hours do you dedicate to yourself? Make yourself a priority, even for just one hour daily.

Replace knee-jerk reactions with pause. When disrespected, neither explode nor disappear. Breathe, then state clearly: “This doesn’t work for me.”

Surround yourself with people who lift you up, not those who only remember you exist when they need something.

The ultimate truth? You want to be heard, but you keep silencing yourself.

You want to be valued, but accept any crumbs thrown your way.

You want priority status while putting yourself last.

And then you wonder why nobody sees you, much less respect you? What did you expect, you dummy?

The disrespect you receive isn’t bad luck. It’s the reflection of your relationship with YOURSELF. The external only changes when the internal reorganizes.

You don’t need to become supervillainy cold or indifferent to be respected. You don’t need a cheek scar or a leather jacket with spikes (although… now that I think of it…)

Nah, you just need to stop begging for love in the form of obedience.

One thing that’s going to help you MASSIVELY is being able to ‘look under the hood’ of your own psyche.

And that’s one of the processes I include in my Knesix Code™ Body Language Masterclass.

When you join my Masterclass, you not only learn to read people’s body language; because before getting to unveil the mysteries that others try to conceal, you MUST assess what’s going inside you. Your biases, prejudices and self-perceptions. So you will…

  • Learn where your emotional triggers come from
  • Channel a confident and relaxed body language
  • Develop your observation skills to make this same assessment on others (without them ever finding out!)

To read all the information and the enrol link, go here: https://jesusenriquerosas.com/masterclass​

I’ll see you there!

Jesús.

The Body Language Guy